The Golden Rule Doesn’t Work In Intimate Relationships
How Do Our Core Values Impact Our Relationships?
According to Dr. John Demartini, there are 9 questions we can ask ourselves to find out if our thoughts about who we are and what we want are congruent with our core values. In addition, understanding the core values of those closest to us (family, partner, children, close friends), can have a huge impact on our relationships. If we approach these people with their core values in mind, we are much more likely to have positive, impactful relationships.
Answer these questions to see where you stand. Many times, we “think” we want something because someone close to us wants us to have, be or do that thing and we lose sight of what we truly value. We end up with a lot of brain noise that keeps us confused and bewildered.
What is TRULY important to you, based on your actions, not just your thoughts:
1. What do you surround yourself with? (things, people, places)
2. What do you make time to do daily? (There are many things we say we need to do, but many times those things get pushed aside so that we can do the things that are most important to us or bring us the most joy.)
3 What energizes you? (If you engage in this activity, you have more energy at the end of the day than if you do other activities.)
4. How do you spend your money? (When money is tight, you find ways to get the money for those things that you really want…what types of things are they)
5. In what areas of your life are you organized and disciplined?
6. What are your innermost thoughts dominated by? What things do you find yourself thinking about regularly?
7. What topics do you socialize and talk about most with others?
8. What commonly inspires you about others? (Think about people that inspire you and determine what it is that they do that inspires you.)
9. What are your most common long-term goals that are materializing in your life? (e.g. have a family)
Once you know the answers to these questions about yourself and your friends/family, you know more about the core values from which you all operate in your lives. If you can communicate based on what is important to both you and them, you will notice that your relationships become stronger and more fulfilling! Don’t discount your pre-teen and teenage children! Know that our values change over time, but being able to communicate with people on where they are right now will help them feel more connected and encouraged by you. Also knowing what your true values are can help you make better decisions on pursuing things that fit YOU, and not things that others think fit you or expect from you.
Peace and Prosperity to you!
Carol
Is Your Brain Out of Balance?
In my personal development journey over the past year I have learned a lot about myself. I learned that if we suppress our “dark” sides, like judgmental, selfish, arrogant and lazy, those traits tend to have more power over us than we do them. On the other hand, if we acknowledge and embrace that we all have those unseemly traits, we have more power over them and can make better choices when faced with triggers that bring the dark side out in us. I also learned that my thoughts literally create my reality. This is not just a metaphor or argument for positive thinking….my thoughts actually go out into the universe as energy and create the reality that I experience. Wow.
For those of us that feel like we know ourselves pretty well and have a better understanding of our thinking, behavior and actions, it can be a little frustrating to continually experience anxiety, depression and irritability. I’m not saying that I experience these feelings as often as I used to, but I do still experience them more than I would like and not being able to control the irritability really irritates me!!
So my journey continues… As I have continued to research and study human behavior and our fascinating brains, I came across an amazing new technology. The process is called Brain Wave Optimization, and it is powered by a patent-pending technology developed by Brain State Technologies. This technology is based on the belief that there are certain events in our lives that create trauma to our brains. These events can be as severe as a life-threatening accident or illness, participating in war, or nearly dying as we were being born, to less traumatic events such as verbal abuse, a fender bender or being pushed unexpectedly into a swimming pool. Can you think of someone who has an unexplainable fear of something (airplanes, heights, water) and has had a very hard time overcoming this fear?
Let’s use water as an example. The way I heard it explained is that an event happens, such as being pushed into a swimming pool unexpectedly. The brain encodes the event as life-threatening. Therefore, when the person is faced with getting into a swimming pool or other body of water in the future, their brain triggers that fight or flight response making that person deathly afraid of getting into the water. Every person will encode different events in different ways, so that is why one person may have whiplash symptoms from a mere fender-bender, while another person can withstand hits at up to 50 mph during demolition derby events with no symptoms of whiplash. It’s all in the way a person’s brain encodes the event.
Brain State Technologies has developed a system that measures a person’s brainwaves for imbalances. People that tend to show large imbalances are soldiers returning from war, prisoners, and some with learning disabilities. Most of us probably have slight imbalances though, which result in anxiety, depression, irritability, inability to focus on work, sleeplessness, etc. Brain Wave Optimization allows our brains to reflect back to themselves and actually do their own balancing or healing. The process involves hooking a person up to a computer via nodes placed on the head. The computer measures our brainwaves and then feeds back that information to our brains via tones or sounds. Our brains are smart enough to read that information and use it to balance itself. Absolutely amazing!
Most people need anywhere between 10 & 30 sessions to balance their brains, which is determined by level of imbalance they start out with. People who have gone through this completely non-invasive procedure report much more clarity of thought, better sleep, less irritability and a general calmness. Or in cases where they had learning disabilities or post traumatic stress disorder, they show huge improvement. I have done quite a bit of research on this since I found out about it and so far have not heard of one person that had a negative experience. I plan to get my brain balanced soon, so I’ll let you know how it goes!
Peace & Prosperity to you!
Carol
Lisa Malloy – The Visioning Coach
Join Richard Kronick and Kerrianne Cartmer-Edwards on Saturday, February 12th with their special guest, Lisa Malloy. Lisa is The Visioning Coach, author of Virtually Inspired and host of The Entrepreneur Corner web radio show.
Lisa is the President and CEO of Inspiring VA Coaching and a Certified Business Coach. She specializes in helping individuals start and run their own entrepreneurial ventures by developing and achieving an obtainable vision for their business. Lisa will explain the Visioning Process that she created for her coaching clients to help both new and established entrepreneurs build self-confidence and develop and use the tools necessary to achieve their goals. Given how demanding and often overwhelming starting and maintaining your own business can be, Lisa helps entrepreneurs re-focus these challenges into positive energy, inspiration and a clear sense of direction enabling true success. Bottom line: Lisa’s expertise provides a message that truly resonates with the personal development students and entrepreneurs.
Lisa’s website is: http://www.inspiringva.com/
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11AM EST / 10AM CST (US), Saturday, February 12th
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Will I Ever Find My Purpose In Life?
Many people are very clear on their purpose in life. I’m always in awe of people that say things like, “I knew I wanted to be a teacher in 5th grade,” or “The minute I picked up the guitar I knew I would never put it down.” The vast majority of us, however, are a little fuzzy about our absolute purpose or path. I’ve spent many years off and on wondering what my true purpose is, and wondering whether I would ever find it.
I’ve recently changed my perspective on the whole “purpose” thing. You see, life is meant to be a journey, an adventure. Some of us may have several different purposes in life. As we achieve and accomplish the next step, a new path opens up…oftentimes a path we would have never imagined in a million years. As a young person, I was very focused and driven. I was determined to get a job in the corporate world and climb the ladder right out of college. I enjoyed that experience for several years and made it to middle management. Once that purpose was complete for me, my focus started to shift. I had started a family and felt a strong pull to be 100% mother.
So I became a stay-home mom and thoroughly enjoyed the journey of watching two little ones go from babies to little humans. It was a wonderful experience, but after a few years I had completed what I needed to complete there and a new door opened. Being an entrepreneur and business owner was something I always thought I would do eventually. The perfect set of opportunities presented themselves, and BOOM – I was a business owner. That was a wonderful journey too, but was not the last stop on my adventure. Something inside me knew it was time to move on, so I sold the business.
I’ve spent the last year thoroughly enjoying my freedom, but I also spent an undue amount of time worrying about my next step. What should I do? What do I want to do? Can I do what I want to do? Surely something is going to jump out at me and I’ll know when it happens….. Too much worrying and trying to force an answer in a specific timeframe stagnated me. It actually slowed my progress down!
All of that time was not wasted, however. I spent the majority of my “working” time learning about myself, the powers of the universe, and making a real shift in my perspective about the world and my place in it. Now that I know that thoughts become things and that my thoughts create my reality, I have healthier relationships, healthier self image, and a hunger for all of the cool adventures in my future.
There are a lot of teachers out there trying to help humanity understand the metaphysics of thoughts and how they shape our world. So many, in fact, that it can become quite confusing and frustrating. Here are a few nuggets of wisdom that I have extrapolated and created into my own theories of reality. I think each of us has to create our own version….and seeing others’ versions can help us determine what works for us:
- Thoughts do become things, but we have to remember that there are billions of people with billions of thoughts every second. If I have a thought, dream or wish that is dependent on another person (or many people), I need to realize that I’m being very specific about the “hows” and the “outcomes” and may be disappointed. The universe works better with generalities than with specifics and may get us to an outcome in a very different way than we could ever imagine. .
- Now, instead of thinking about the physical things that I want, I think about the reasons I want them. We all want things because of the feelings those things give us. For instance, I want to remodel my house because when I walk through the door of a beautiful home it gives me the feelings of pride, abundance and joy. Maybe if I focus on the outcomes of pride, abundance and joy, the universe will take me down the path of a beautiful home. It may also take me down the path of jet-setting around the world or working with homeless people getting them into homes, or a number of other things that bring about those feelings for me. .
- I now realize that none of us knows we are on the path that will ultimately take us to our dreams and desires until after we get there! Think about it. When you’ve accomplished a big goal or come into some abundance in your life, you didn’t always know you were on the exact right path. You may have known you were moving in the general direction of your goal, but once you got there you were able to look back and see how all of the pieces fit perfectly to get you there. Many of the things you experienced on your journey were not things you would expect to help you, but in looking back you can say, “Yes! I see why that had to happen to help me get here.” You are not going to know you are on the right path until your goal is realized, so have faith in the process and enjoy the journey! .
- Instead of focusing on a specific goal, dream or outcome, I am now having fun “tossing balls” in the general direction of many different interests. Many of us are interested in lots of different things and think, “I could enjoy doing that.” Sitting and waiting for the perfect “that” to show up in our lives just slows us down. Instead, we should focus on doing little things in the general direction of our interests. For instance, I would love to teach young people about the abundance available to them in this world, instead of subscribing to the “scarcity” theory that most of us were raised with. I would also enjoy running a new business, writing a book, manufacturing and selling my invention, etc. etc. So instead of having to decide on just one of those things, I am going to toss a few balls in several of those directions. I’ll volunteer at a children’s shelter one day a week. I’ll continue to write my blog. I’ll continue to research my business and invention ideas. I have faith that the universe will bring coincidences, people and opportunities into my life that will help move me in the right direction. .
- Finally, learn to appreciate the here and now. It is absolutely critical to dream and visualize ourselves living our perfect lives, but it is also critical to find the jewels right in front of us. When I can appreciate and enjoy my family, my pets, my friends and the many blessings currently in my life, I am much better equipped to move toward my dreams. If all I focused on was that thing out there that I suspect I’ll never get to or achieve…..and think about how much my job sucks and my family doesn’t appreciate me, then guess what? I am CREATING more of that with my thoughts about that. Instead, I choose to focus on the things that are currently bringing joy into my life, even if they are just tiny little things. When I focus on those things that bring me joy, my THOUGHTS are moving me in that direction and more of those things will start to surface in my life.
Life is an adventure, and you have the power to think thoughts and take actions that will bring more joy and abundance into yours. A small shift in perspective can make a huge shift in your reality. Try one or both of these exercises every day for the next month and see what happens:
A. Write a short or long answer to this question: If there was a miracle tonight and I woke up living the life of my wildest dreams, what would it look like? Read the question and your answer every morning or evening and then close your eyes and imagine yourself in that place for just a few minutes.
B. Start a Gratitude List. Keep a journal, notepad, word document or whatever works for you and resolve to write down at least 2 things every day that you are grateful or thankful for. It can be as simple as, “I’m thankful for the dry, warm roof over my head,” or “I’m thankful to have a family that loves me.”
What have you got to lose? At the very least nothing will change in your life. I’d be willing to bet that you will feel a little jolt of positive emotion each time you practice one or both of the exercises. Positive emotion creates positive thoughts, and positive thoughts move us in the direction of more positive experiences. Woo hoo! Just thinking about it gets me excited!
Peace and Prosperity to you in 2011. Make it a great year!
Carol
Great Gifts for the Deep Thinkers on Your List
You want to get something unique and meaningful for the deep thinker on your list, but just don’t know where to start. Here are a few suggestions for books, video and audio that are categorized into “A Little Deep” and “A Lot Deep” to help you pick just the right one. Links to these items on Amazon.com can give you even more information and reviews.
A LITTLE DEEP (think of it as deep thinker “light”) – Books, Videos and Audio
Book: The Right Questions (Debbie Ford) – This is a great book for those just beginning their personal growth journey or for those who like a quick, easy (but profound) read. This book is also a great resource that can be read in sections or straight through. I often refer to the “questions” when I hit a roadblock or personal crisis, and it’s amazing how they bring clarity to the situation almost instantly.
Book: Chicken Soup For the Soul: Count Your Blessings: 101 Stories of Gratitude, Fortitude and Silver Linings (Jack Canfield) – This book is great for anyone that enjoys touching stories. The real nugget within these stories is on the thought that there are no coincidences and that something out there has a hand in helping us reach our desired destinations. All of the Chicken Soup books are great gifts, and more titles can be viewed on Amazon.com.
Video: The Secret Movie – This is a great video for those that are new to the principles of the Law of Attraction. It is called a “video seminar” in an editorial review because it is part movie and part documentary, featuring many well-known philosophers, authors, doctors and quantum physicists. The movie is based on a book written by Rhonda Byrne, which can also be purchased on Amazon.com.
Video: What the Bleep?! – Down the Rabbit Hole DVD – This was my first real introduction to quantum physics. The science behind the premise that our thoughts are an energy force that create real changes is explained in layman’s terms. I became fascinated with quantum physics and the power of thought after viewing this video. It can be a little mind-boggling, but at the same time much easier to understand than you might think. My 9 & 11 year old kids learned lot, as do I every time I watch it. It’s one of those things you can watch time and again and have new “aha” moments every time. This is the Quantum edition with 3 discs. The original version is a little less expensive and can also be found on Amazon.
Audio: Leveraging the Universe and Engaging the Magic (Mike Dooley) – This audio series is by the creator of TUT: Thoughts Become Things. Mike is a practical, no-nonsense author who uses great stories and analogies to explain how our thoughts do become things. He also gives a lot of great advice on the small things we can do every day to move in the direction of our dreams so that the “universe” can bestow its magic upon us. This is a great gift for the person that enjoys great advice infused with a sense of humor! I received Mike’s free, daily “Thoughts from the Universe” via email for several months before deciding to read his books and listen to his audio series. Here is a link to his web site, and below is a link to the Audio CD on Amazon.com: TUT.com
A LOT DEEP (for the true deep thinker) – Books, Videos and Audio
Book: A New Earth – Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose (Eckhart Tolle) – This book and author were featured on Oprah several months ago. It is definitely one of those eye-opening books about life, thoughts and mostly about how our egos get in the way of our happiness and true purpose in life. I have to admit that I bumped up against my ego while reading this book and had to go through some ups and downs while absorbing it all (especially having to accept those hard things about myself). However, it was well worth it and deepened my understanding of myself, my ego, and how those things affect my values, relationships and dreams.
Book: The Dark Side of the Light Chasers – Reclaiming Your Power, Creativity, Brilliance and Dreams (Debbie Ford) – This book explores our lives from the perspective that we each possess all of the personality traits there are in the world. Many of our “bad” traits have been suppressed or denied due to conditioning, bad experiences or punishment. The book’s premise is that we get angry and frustrated with people who are exhibiting traits that we have suppressed and denied. We don’t understand that their actions are making us angry because there is something in us that is unresolved in that area. Debbie provides a powerful set of exercises to help us unlock those suppressed traits so that we can live authentically, accept our so-called weaknesses, and in many cases discover hidden talents and strengths. This book can greatly improve relationships (spouse, family, co-worker) when the reader takes the time to go through the exercises and is honest with themselves about what they are hiding and suppressing. It can be difficult to swallow at times, but in the end it will leave you feeling liberated.
Book: Think and Grow Rich (Napoleon Hill) – This is by far one of the best books I’ve ever read. Some people are turned off by some of the suggestions he makes regarding acquiring riches, but I personally think that has more to do with their relationship with money and our western conditioning. What I really appreciate about this book is the practical, step-by-step instruction on how to achieve your goals by altering your thinking. The idea of utilizing a mastermind group and having integrity in all that you do to acquire your riches is also refreshing. Many people say that this book is the basis for most of the popular self help and business success books out today. The book is now in the public domain, so you can download a PDF for free. A nicer, book or audio version might be better as a gift though.
Video: What the Bleep?! – Down the Rabbit Hole DVD – I had to include this in both sections because it can be viewed and absorbed on many different levels. Even the deepest thinkers (who enjoy Krishnamurti, Aldus Huxley, etc.) will enjoy this one. It is also a great video for the more scientific minds that need evidence and proof to shift their perspective. As mentioned above, this is a movie/documentary that explores quantum physics (or quantum mechanics) in a way that non-scientists can understand. Highly recommended!
Video: The Quantum Activist (Amit Goswami) – This video was created by and stars one of the scientists featured in What the Bleep. Dr. Goswami goes into more detail on the properties of quantum physics and attempts to bridge the gap between God and Science. Dr. Goswami tells the story of how he moved away from the religious teachings he was raised with in India to seek his path in nuclear and quantum science, and then how he came full circle through quantum insights back to some of his religious teachings. The only downside to this video is that Dr. Goswami can be hard to understand at times due to a thick Indian accent.
Video: Joseph Campbell on Power of Myth (with Bill Moyers) – This video was my first experience with many of the world religions and myths, and how similar they have been over the centuries. Joseph Campbell spent his entire life studying religions, traditions and myths and coined the phrase “follow your bliss.” This is a must-see for anyone struggling with the role of religion and God in a world where science, universal energy and quantum physics are becoming mainstream. Fascinating!
Audio: A Hero With a Thousand Faces (Joseph Campbell) – This is an audio CD, but can also be purchased in paperback. The “Hero” is also explored in the Power of Myth DVD set, but goes into a little more detail here. It examines man’s eternal struggle for identity through ancient hero myths.
Most of these books are also available for download to Kindle and other e-readers, as well as audio CD. Let’s spread the power of thought throughout the world so we can all live more enlightened lives. Happy Shopping!
Peace and Prosperity to you and your family this holiday season.
Carol
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Peace & Prosperity to you!
Carol
How to Get Out of a Funk
Have you ever woken up and for no good reason you were in a funk? You know, that blah feeling that just feels demotivating and makes you cranky with everyone you come into contact with? Well I have, and I hate when that happens because I’m normally an optimistic person who is at my best in the morning.
This morning started out with that funky, icky feeling. I immediately started thinking about the tools I have that might pull me out of it. “OK,” I said to myself, “I will just change my thoughts. I’ll think about all of the things I’m grateful for and what a beautiful day it is going to be!” I made some coffee, turned on the TV and sat down to have some time to myself before everyone else got up. I usually treasure Saturday mornings when I can relax for an hour or so.
It didn’t work. I still felt cranky and was especially grouchy with my sweet puppy that loves to play ball with me every morning. “Darn!” I thought. “Maybe I’m hormonal…this isn’t working!” I then started investigating what had put me into this funky mood. I was quickly able to come up with several things that had happened the past few days. I had an unresolved situation with a friend. I had expectations about how my husband would react to some things I worked on while he was gone. Of course he didn’t react the way I wanted, so I was disappointed about that. And the list goes on. I started to rationalize with myself about how I shouldn’t have expectations and how I shouldn’t let the friend situation get to me, etc. etc. In other words, I was beating myself up and it only made me feel worse. “I can choose peace over this, I can choose peace over this,” I chanted to myself. That helped a little, but there was still a heavy feeling over me.
A few minutes later I walked into my office and picked up a book that I hadn’t looked at in quite a while. It is called The Right Questions by Debbie Ford. I flipped to the dog-eared page that lists “the right questions,” and read through some of them:
- Will this choice propel me toward an inspiring future or will it keep me stuck in the past?
- Will this choice bring me long-term fulfillment or will it bring me short-term gratification?
- Am I standing in my power or am I trying to please another?
- Am I looking for what’s right or am I looking for what’s wrong?
- Will this choice add to my life force or will it rob me of my energy?
- Will I use this situation as a catalyst to grow and evolve or will I use it to beat myself up?
- Does this choice empower me or does it disempower me?
- Is this an act of faith or is it an act of fear?
Reading through those questions, I immediately realized that I was trying to please another, was looking for what’s wrong, was beating myself up and being robbed of my energy. It completely changed my perspective and created an instantaneous shift in my mood. It never ceases to amaze me when the right question, thought or statement has such a transformational impact. I think Tony Robbins said it best when he said, “Quality questions create a quality life,” as quoted in Debbie Ford’s book.
As we learn and grow and evolve, we gather tricks and tools to help us along the way. When one tool doesn’t work, try another one. I don’t believe there is one method or tool that will work in every situation. That’s why I am open to learning and trying lots of different methods to figure out which ones work for me. Keep those questions handy. Print them out and keep them where you can get to them quickly and easily. See if they make a difference for you the next time you find yourself in a funk.
Peace and Prosperity to you!
Carol
P.S. You can find Debbie Ford’s book on Amazon.com by clicking on this link:
Thoughts Are Not Changing My Reality! Or Are They…..
I’ve come to find that personal growth is a life-long journey. There are a lot of things about the universe and the power of my thoughts that I conceptually understand, but when it comes to putting the concepts into every day practice…well that’s a different story. I can’t count the number of times I’ve argued with myself over knowing that I could change my thoughts to alter my reality in a situation, yet my brain insisted on focusing on that thing that made me upset and frustrated. For instance, a few weeks ago I became frustrated with my husband over something simple. Instead of reframing the situation in my head before bringing it up to him to resolve, I went back to my old ways of having a complete conversation with him in my head which led to more frustration. When I finally did bring it up to him, I was too upset and “all knowing” to have a decent conversation. You can imagine how that one went. Later I was disappointed in myself for falling back into old patterns.
We need to forgive ourselves when these types of things happen. The big difference in the example above was that I actually REALIZED what was going on. That is a big step all by itself. When you are able to see yourself in a different light, change is taking place. If I hadn’t seen the disconnect between what I knew and what I did based on old habits, then I would not have moved forward. I would have been stuck in those patterns that did not serve me. I would have continued to think of myself as a failure in communicating and might have given up on trying to improve. Instead, I realized that I was acting based on old habits (that can be hard to break) and I forgave myself. I also made a mental note to keep working on utilizing the power of my thoughts in future situations.
I learned a couple of mental triggers that can help direct my thoughts when I get into those emotionally driven times. One is to say to myself, “What can I do differently in this situation.” When this was first suggested to me, I thought, “yeah, right.” But I have to say it really does work! The process of stopping long enough to have that thought completely changes your thinking path and has you consider different paths. I use that phrase a lot and it really does make a difference for me. The other thing I use when I’m frustrated, especially in a situation where I don’t have a lot of control over the other person or the outcome of the situation is, “I choose peace over this.” This is one that you may have to repeat a few times, but for some reason saying those words to yourself has a physical impact that calms you and helps you change your thoughts around that situation.
Just last night I had an opportunity to practice my new knowledge. We were at a friend’s house having a friendly conversation. I was telling the group about a recent experience I had with a psychic that completely blew me away. Out of the blue, my husband started chastising me for “falling for that crap.” Aside from the fact that I was embarrassed for being called out like that in front of a group, I was surprised that he had such strong feelings against it given some of the examples I had shared with him earlier.
On the way home, I was feeling angry toward him for doing that in a group setting instead of telling me his thoughts privately. I wanted to give him a piece of my mind! However, I took the time to think to myself, “What can I do differently in this situation?” I had a couple of realizations. The first was that I get to choose how his words and actions make me feel. If I allow his actions to completely control my feelings, then I’m giving my power away. I get to choose how I feel regardless of what anyone else does or doesn’t do. Secondly, I realized that it doesn’t matter whether or not he agrees with me. So often, we get wrapped up in trying to change another person’s position on a topic. I realized that I just don’t care what he thinks. He wasn’t there and did not have the experience I had. If he wants to be closed minded, that’s his issue, not mine. Those thoughts took a huge weight off of me and made me feel so much better. Once I was in that mind space, I did confront him. I told him that I didn’t really appreciate him talking to me that way in a group setting….but I said it very calmly and without a lot of emotion. It was more of a, “please don’t do that again” tone instead of a “how dare you” tone. I also told him that I was fine with what he believes or doesn’t believe and would appreciate him giving me the same respect. What could have become a battle of the wills ended up being a civil conversation where we both learned something about each other. The love and respect stayed in tact and it was over quickly.
Most of us have one or two people in our lives that really know how to push our buttons. They seem to elicit that emotional response out of us that leads to arguments that go in circles without ever changing anyone’s mind or beliefs. It gets so frustrating that you get to the point that you limit your interaction with those people. If they are a spouse, family member or child, not communicating will only erode the relationship over time. Unfortunately that tactic doesn’t work…I tried it for many years! I urge you to try one or both of the strategies I mentioned earlier. Use the power of your thoughts to control your response and your way of thinking about the situation. It’s not always easy and you will have times when you fall into old patterns. But as you practice and have victories with yourself, you will gain confidence and will start to use them more and more.
If you have questions or comments on this topic, please share! Also, feel free to contact me anytime via the contact form to the right. I’m happy to help in any way I can.
Peace and prosperity to you!
Carol
No-Fail Approach to Nutrition & Fitness
November 2, 2010
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JJ Virgin is one of the nation’s foremost fitness and nutrition experts, an accomplished public speaker and media personality. Her 25 years in the health and fitness industry, the past 10 in holistic nutrition and functional medicine, have earned JJ recognition as the go-to weight loss expert who can unlock the door to lifelong weight management through her sensible, no-fail approach to nutrition and fitness. JJ’s is the author of “Six Weeks to Sleeveless and Sexy” published by Simon & Schuster Gallery and the co-star of the TLC reality series, Freaky Eaters. JJ has worked with high performance athletes, CEO’s, and A-list celebrities from around the world, including Gene Simmons, Ben Stiller, Jeanne Tripplehorn, Tracie Thoms, Janeane Garofalo, Carrie Otis, Stephen Bishop, Benny Mardones, and Superman Returns star Brandon Routh. JJ appeared for two years as the nutrition expert on the top-rated Dr. Phil Show, and made appearances on Bonnie Hunt, ABC’s Extreme Makeover, NBC’s iVillage Live, and the E! channel’s Modern Girl’s Guide to Life. She’s authored numerous articles and is frequently featured on nationally syndicated radio shows, at international conferences, in national magazines, newspapers and websites. The dial in number for Beyond Discovery is: 712-432-8730, pin 10318#
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